Scientific Relationship Guide: Evidence-Based Classics Distilled

Problem it addresses

Dating advice is often fragmented into whether to pursue, how to handle conflict, or when to break up. This skill treats relationships as a structured, reviewable process instead of a search for a destined partner. It focuses on the gaps people have before dating, during compatibility checks, during maintenance, and after breakups.

How the skill works

It routes to files under references/ by relationship stage:
- Before dating: reframing assumptions, core needs checklist, pursuit and rejection scenarios, and female-initiated approaches;
- During dating: 3-month evaluation, travel test, Gottman Four Horsemen, and love-language mismatch;
- Maintenance: Gottman Seven Principles, repair conversations, and nonviolent communication;
- Post-breakup: normalizing pain, reflection templates, toxic-relationship signals, gender-difference models, love hallucination, and pre-emptive framing.

The key capability is distilling five classics into usable checklists: a 10-question relationship health screen, an attachment-type quick check, and a love-language sorting test. The intended workflow is to describe the current situation, load the matching chapter, and then complete a one-second action plus a three-day adjustment plan.

Boundaries

It is intended as a structured self-help framework for everyday relationship decisions and reflection. It is not a substitute for psychological counseling, clinical diagnosis, or legal advice. For severe distress, trauma, or dangerous relationship patterns, offline professional support should take priority.