Introduction¶

In relationships or intimate partnerships, many people repeatedly encounter similar dilemmas: being overly clingy, fearing closeness, or constantly seeking reassurance that their partner is still there. Self-directed research often stops at terms like “Anxious” or “Avoidant,” lacking structured questions, output formats, and boundary specifications. Consequently, Agents tend to provide label-based conclusions or attempt to “diagnose” the user’s partner.

Below, we introduce the SkillHub community Skill “Attachment Style Identification” (@user_70c2f807/attachment-style-identification, v1.0.0). It organizes adult attachment theory into an executable conversational flow and Markdown output templates, enabling clients like Cursor that support Skills to assist users in understanding their patterns within clear limitations, rather than replacing professional counseling.

What is this¶

“Attachment Style Identification” is a community Skill published by user_70c2f807 on SkillHub. It is officially categorized under data-analysis and tagged with requires_api_key=false, meaning no additional API Key is needed. The Skill description states that it is based on Bowlby’s attachment theory and adult attachment research. When users describe relationship confusion or repetitive patterns, it identifies tendencies toward Secure, Anxious, Avoidant, or Disorganized attachment through inquiry and provides strategic directions for improving intimate relationships.

Official page and coordinates:

• SkillHub: https://www.skillhub.cn/skills/user_70c2f807/attachment-style-identification
• Coordinates: @user_70c2f807/attachment-style-identification

Core Features¶

The following capabilities are derived from the SKILL.md included in the Skill package:

1. Attachment Style Assessment: Conducts inquiry through typical reaction patterns in intimate relationships, rather than a one-time questionnaire score.
2. Explanation of Four Types: Explains the characteristics and common origins of Secure, Anxious, Avoidant, and Disorganized attachment.
3. Relationship Problem Correlation: Analyzes the impact of current attachment tendencies on interaction styles, communication, and reactions to separation.
4. Pairing and Communication: Discusses interaction dynamics under different attachment tendency combinations and offers suggestions for adjusting communication styles.
5. Triggers and Coping: Identifies “trigger moments” that easily activate insecure attachment, paired with self-soothing and boundary exercises.
6. Structured Output: Outputs assessment, pattern analysis, and improvement directions according to fixed Markdown sections (see example structure below).

The Skill also explicitly states that it does not replace professional psychotherapy or marriage counseling; attachment styles are viewed as a continuous spectrum rather than fixed labels; it does not diagnose partners or encourage using attachment theory to manipulate relationships; and for strong manifestations of Disorganized attachment, professional treatment is strongly recommended.

Installation and Activation¶

Before installation, ensure the SkillHub CLI is available on your local machine (see SkillHub Installation Documentation):

command -v skillhub && skillhub --version

If not installed, follow the official documentation for a full installation or CLI-only installation, for example:

curl -fsSL https://skillhub-1388575217.cos.ap-guangzhou.myqcloud.com/install/install.sh | bash

Install the Skill to the skills directory read by the current Agent; SkillHub documentation emphasizes the necessity of using --dir, otherwise it defaults to ./skills/ which may not be recognized. Common paths are as follows:

Installation command (consistent with the SkillHub page prompt):

skillhub install @user_70c2f807/attachment-style-identification --dir ~/.cursor/skills/

Replace ~/.cursor/skills/ with the Agent directory you are actually using. After installation, restart or refresh the Skills list according to the requirements of your client to enable the new Skill.

Typical Usage¶

The trigger scenarios defined by the Skill are: users who repeatedly face setbacks in relationships or experience repetitive relationship patterns, hoping to understand attachment styles and improve intimate relationships.

Recommended Conversation Flow (from “Quick Start” in the Skill):

1. The user describes confusion or recurring patterns in their relationship.
2. The Agent asks questions according to the Skill’s guidelines, collecting typical reactions regarding intimacy, separation, trust, etc.
3. Explain the initially judged attachment tendency, its characteristics, and possible origins.
4. Provide suggestions for relationship improvement and developing toward “Earned Secure Attachment.”

Official Example Dialogue (Excerpt):

• User: I am very clingy in every relationship; if the other person replies even slightly slowly, I start feeling anxious.
• Assistant: According to the Skill example, correlate such patterns with common manifestations of Anxious Attachment, emphasizing that this is the attachment system seeking security rather than simply judging it as “being dramatic,” and then guide subsequent improvement strategies.

Execution Steps (from “Execution Steps” in the Skill): Pattern Collection → Type Assessment → Feature Explanation → Origin Exploration → Impact Analysis → Strategy Formulation → Growth Direction.

Output Format Skeleton (The Agent should organize this into Markdown as required by the Skill; field names should follow the Skill’s original text):

## Attachment Style Assessment

**Primary Tendency**: Secure / Anxious / Avoidant / Disorganized
**Core Features**:
- Attitude towards intimacy: [Desiring / Avoiding / Ambivalent]
- Reaction to separation: [Anxious / Relieved / Confused]
- Self-model: [Positive / Negative]
- Other-model: [Positive / Negative]

## Relationship Pattern Analysis
...

## Improvement Directions
...

For complete sections and principles, please refer to the SKILL.md in the installation package.

Use Cases and Notes¶

Suitable for:

• Those who wish to systematically sort out their own intimacy patterns through dialogue, rather than just memorizing a few type terms.
• Those who need the Agent to adhere to boundaries such as “do not diagnose partners, do not store relationship details, prioritize safety assessment for domestic violence.”
• Singles or those in relationships who want to make more conscious choices for their next relationship (also explained in the Skill FAQ).

Limitations and Pitfalls:

• The Skill explicitly states it is not applicable or should be referred to professionals for scenarios involving domestic violence, abuse, deep therapy for Disorganized attachment, or personality disorder diagnosis.
• Do not use attachment labels to judge or manipulate others; the Skill’s “Error Handling” table has fixed handling methods for cases like “Wanting to diagnose a partner” or “Using theory to excuse harmful behavior.”
• SkillHub Metadata: Community source, rating 100000, approximately 894 downloads (based on page/index statistics, subject to change over time); requires_api_key=false indicates no dependence on external paid interfaces, but the Agent itself still consumes model usage.

Conclusion¶

“Attachment Style Identification” constrains attachment theory within reproducible questioning, output templates, and ethical boundaries. It is suitable as an Agent workflow for self-exploration of intimate relationships, but not as a substitute for psychological counseling. For installation and details, see SkillHub: https://www.skillhub.cn/skills/user_70c2f807/attachment-style-identification , coordinates @user_70c2f807/attachment-style-identification (v1.0.0).